“Surviving Tough Times: Delayed but not Denied” who says these things? Surely, many of us might be apt to believe only those who live in a bubble, maybe a yellow and green one possibly.
Well, that is the title of a book authored by Jamaican-born Canadian Rodale Dwyer, and as we shall discover, Rodale is well aware of her multi-faceted life and offerings which provide a kaleidoscope of colours.
Please permit the voice of the unheard, she sits in the chair, red with rage that it happened to her, then green with envy at those who know of the joys, blue with depression and eventually grey with wisdom that all hope is not lost. Many women who suffer miscarriages have this experience, and they feel all alone. They survived! These are the voices that no doubt would rise to thank Dwyer for her first book offered to the public in August 2017 where she shared her personal experience for herself and her partner as they dealt with the after-effects of miscarriage.
It is no surprise that Dwyer notes in interviewing with The Caribbean Current; “The response to the book has been overwhelming. It has exceeded my expectations, I have had televised interviews, as well as, multiple radio interviews. It has definitely reached a wider audience than I anticipated. Also, the Amazon book sales have been steady since its launch. I am extremely humbled.”
While Dwyer’s book might explore the colourful experience of miscarriage, it ought not, in any way, to be taken as a black and white book for miscarriage only.
At its core, Dwyer recognizes the book as being for a wide range of audiences, essentially for those who would seek hope in times of weaknesses and faith in times of despair.
Hope and faith are usually appreciated when eventually the woman who experienced the miscarriage knows of giving birth. Sometimes, as the child, a testimony of ‘delayed but not denied’ grows, there is that age-old question. Is the child the father of the man or vice versa?
Rodale acknowledges her parents as the most influential persons in her life as they have in her own words; “showed great strength in tough times.”
As a child grows he/she leaves behind certain behaviours that provided certain privileges. For example, the two and three-year-old, to some extent have the privilege of age to throw tantrums. As an adult, one can be red with anger or blue with depression yet our age no longer affords us such a privilege. So what do we do when tough times hit? What do we do when we experience loss? We all experience loss, don’t we? For Dwyer, it was the great loss of her child and finding a way outside of tantrum throwing that led to the production and publication of “Surviving Tough Times: Delayed but not Denied.”
Again, we can ask who says these things? What about the person experiencing loss of a job, loss of a lifetime partner through separation or divorce, loss of their home, loss of rights, and the list goes on. So, Dwyer’s book truly provides a kaleidoscope of colours as it speaks to the varied experiences that we face in our life’s journey.
“Never give up, no matter how tough it seems. Trust God, he will take you through each situation.” Such would be the suggestion from Rodale Dwyer to all adults who desire an alternative to throwing temper tantrums.
Who really is Rodale Dwyer? She is a kaleidoscope of colours.
Rodale is an author.
Rodale is a mother and wife, a Human Rights Activist, Entrepreneur, philanthropist, Evangelist, Christian. Rodale is a Licensed Paralegal (PA), Commissioner of Oaths & Mediator. The kaleidoscope continues….
Rodale is the founder of Jamaica’s Grace Unlimited Charity, which gives back to the community with its “back to school” Annual August fundraiser while also providing after-school homework clubs for teenagers.
Rodale is also founder of Toronto’s Young, Educated & Talented (Y.E.T.) movement, which inspires young aspiring female entrepreneurs to pursue their dreams and break society’s imposed barriers.
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By Kerriann Toby
Kerriann Toby holds a Master of Counselling and Bachelor of Psychology. She is a dynamic therapist, trained mediator; and educator since 2000. In addition to being a trained educator, mediator, and therapist, she is a certified Employee Assistance Programme (EAP) Professional. Kerriann has also trained in cyber counseling and holds clinical registration with Employee Assistance Professionals Association (EAPA) & Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA).
In mid-October 2015 she initiated operations of KarryOn geared toward the provision of a variety of enhancement and developmental services for the individual, groups and the organization; e-Coaching/Counseling, Mediation, EAP Services and the creative presentation of psycho-social information. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.